Hi and Assalamualaikum. Lately, I was watching motivational videos on Youtube by Marie Forleo. Most of her videos were about life and business as well as inviting a lot of influence people to inspire us to talk any relevant topics. Today, I'm going to share one of her inspiring interviews, "Why Smart People Underperform?' with a psychiatrist, Ned Hallowell.
This topic was suited us well as we living in a busy and overwhelmed by a long to-do list that would never reach the finish line unless we dead. Does dead could solve anything, though? Do we want to die in peace after done a great job for ourselves in the world? Allah said in Quran meaning, "So do not weaken and do not grieve, and you will be superior if you are [true] believers," (Ali Imran 3:139).
So, without any further delay, let's go through several tips to perform better in lives:
1. Define our Goals Clearly and Specific
Ned Hallowell said that we should be specific and clearly define our life goals in short, medium, long-term and lifetime. But, as he told us "BE SPECIFIC AND CLEARLY DEFINE" meaning not making a long list but only THREE. Probably we had many goals that we want to achieve in our life but limit the number of goals could help us prioritize things.
2. Avoid Screen-Sucking
We have gadgets stay beside us 24/7. We checking emails, scrolling Newsfeed in Facebook and etc, thus, lead us to suck our mind from the screen gadgets. To avoid this, Ned told us to set an amount of time to do so and TIO: Turn It Down!
3. Setting our Default Response from Yes to "Let Me Get Back To You. Let Me Think About It"
We used to be generous in saying something that we wouldn't know if we could overcommit at it. "Yes, I can do that for you", "Sure, I can show up". What I totally agree with him was, " We say yes to many things". That's true, guys. If we shift our "always yes" response into "Let Me Get Back To You. Let Me Think About It" plus, we support ourselves with solid reasons, people would accept it, though.
4. Never Worry Alone
Ned said' "We are super connected electronically but as we have connected electronically, we've been disconnected interpersonally. People don't have that sense of affiliation of belonging, of company.."
When we have got stuck on something, we shouldn't worry alone. There are three steps to overcome this problem:
- Never worry alone. Worry is toxic that may lead us to totally disconnect with people and do harm ourselves.
- Get the facts. We always worried by ourselves because a lack of information or been rooted by wrong information.
- Make a plan even it doesn't work, revise the plan. When you have a plan, you feel more in control and less vulnerable which makes you more effective.
5. Cultivating Lilies and Getting Rid of Leeches
What does that mean?
Cultivating lilies means we should do a project that worth it. It might take time and a lot of effort but as long as we satisfied, that's the key performing better in our life.
Getting rid of leeches referred to people or projects that just aren't worth it. They may be worth it in their own right but not to us.
But, Ned warned us that if we were done too many worth things, it could cultivate leeches as well. So, go back to our first tips "Be Specific and Clearly Define Our Goals" and set our priority.
That's all. Feels motivated? Act now! One of interesting tweetable from Marie was, "Loser Wait For Motivation, Winners Just Get Things Done". Oops! No need to snap, I never call you a loser, though. But, we probably a loser if we don't act right at this moment.
I also provide a link if you are interested to watch the video by yourselves.
>>>>https://youtu.be/OBV2vBFD29I?list=LLBMaY1R5C9rwMm6Jc4dFfHQ<<<<
Notes: Most of this post are not using my own words. I just recall and share the input I have got from the video. Thank you.
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